Yesterday marked my first day exploring downtown Vancouver. I decided that with the sun shining, I would take the opportunity and sit by the beach. So I found myself a rock and curled up with the view of the ocean and the mountains in the distance.
There was a man next to me, probably in his mid-20’s, relaxing and sunbathing. As I fell into a blissful feeling, enjoying the warmth on my face as I read my book, I noticed the guy beside me was swimming! As a note, although I’m in Vancouver now, it is still only the 7th of April.
Before I decided to leave, I decided I would initiate a few words with him. So, I asked:
Me: “How cold was the water?”
Him: “It was really cold. But, if you tell yourself it’s really cold you’ll never get in. I come down to the beach every day in the summer. I live close to here. I’ve been wanting to come swimming all week, but today was finally warm enough. Cold is relative.”
What impressed me the most was his choice of words. It was obvious to me that:
- if you want something bad enough you’ll do it
- if you keep a positive perspective you’ll face adversity
- your words affect your actions
- what is okay for me, may not be okay for you. But if it aligns with your values, goals, and desires, you’re being authentic.
Although there was a bit more to our conversation, this was the gist of it.
So here is your tip:
I think we can all take a piece of his perspective and try to use it more in our daily lives.
Have you caught yourself reframing your self-talk or your words? How has it helped you? What helped you change your perspective? Share it down below in the comments!
The “Professional Hobo”, aka Nora Dunn, provides readers concise, real-life examples of how to creatively find resources for free accommodation while traveling.
I came across Nora’s website after doing some research on those who have traded in their “rat-race” lifestyle for more “lifestyle design”, as Tim Ferris would put it. I’ve been intrigued lately with the psychology of-
1) letting go of materialistic possessions (living more of a minimalistic life), and
2) escaping the 9-5 and living a more stress-free life.
Many of the clients I see in therapy talk to me about how much pressure and stress they’re under. Working 50+ hours/week while trying to pay their bills, meeting their individual and family needs (they say there are never enough hours in the day), and complain about how many hours a day they spend commuting. Sometimes, I think, “there has to be more to life than this!”
After reading a bit about Nora’s exotic locations, seeing her pictures of paradise, and “care-free” smile on her face, I decided to change something. What inspired me to reach out to her specifically is that she’s an Ontario born-and-raised lady as well. Nora’s bio (in brief): in 2006 she sold her lucrative financial-advising practice, got rid of most belongings, and decided to set sail on an excursion most dream about.
Nora’s Tricks for Those Who Like to Travel and Get Free Accommodation Around the World
In, How To Get Free Accommodation Around The World, Nora walks through 5 areas you can realistically use along your travels to get free accommodation. At first, I was a little skeptical about some of the suggestions Nora points out. However, after some double-checking on the Internet, I found out that lots of other people do it too! What I liked most about this resource is that Nora provides specific examples of how and where you can come across free accommodation. I was curious about most, so I checked out a few of them…
after looking, I actually signed up for some of her suggestions for my travels. Nora also shares hers, or other travelers’ experiences with the suggestions she provides. Don’t most of us look for some type of “testimonial” when embracing something new?
This book, by far, is a comprehensive resource guide for those who are thinking about ditching the traditional lifestyle. It’s also immensely useful for those who already started with it and try to find smart ways to save money. Nora’s bubbly personality is seen throughout the book, and, of course, her personal website: The Professional Hobo.
The holiday season…
Cold weather ✓
2013 coming to an end ✓
Deadlines approaching ✓
More family time ✓
More commitments ✓
Season of giving ✓
…as you know, the list keeps running. Most of our lives encompass some of these things right now. In my practice, I’m finding that there’s an increased level of stress and anxiety in people’s lives. Why does holiday stress happen?
Holiday Season and Stress
Research from the American Heart Association (2004) contends that this time of year there’s an increase in emotional stress about the holidays. Having to interact with family we may, or may not want to associate with, feeling the pressure of having to absorb financial pressures such as purchasing gifts, traveling, and/or entertaining. Also around this time of year, people are more likely to indulge in foods and beverages they may not usually consume. Consequently, if it interrupts normal healthy patterns, feelings of guilt or regret creep in.
5 tips for avoiding holiday stress:
- Pick and choose your holiday activities
- Ask for help
- Say no when necessary
- Everything in moderation
- Set realistic expectations for the season
Try to relax and lower your expectations from yourself and from your family. You may find yourself enjoying holidays more than you expected.
Kloner, R. (2004). The “Merry Christmas Coronary” and “Happy New Year Heart Attack” Phenomenon. American Heart Association. Retrieved from: http://circ.ahajournals.org/content/110/25/3744.short