According to Dr. Gottman’s Sound Relationship House Theory, two fundamental things make the relationship stable and long-lasting: trust and commitment. While trust is something you feel, commitment is something you do. Today, we’ll take time to notice that immense importance of that feeling of trust in a relationship.
There is no successful relationship without mutual trust. Trust is the prime pillar that keeps your relationship up, or, in case it lacks, crushes it down. But here’s the good thing: trust in a relationship builds over time. Even if there were little betrayals, or even the big ones, you can learn to trust each other again and make your relationship stronger. With no further due, here is the great article on how to build trust in a relationship: https://www.gottman.com/blog/trust/
Dr. Gottman even came up with the “trust metrics” – a mathematical way to evaluate trust in a relationship.
“If my numbers are right, it’s smart to take the risk of trusting people, and it is also smart to know whom not to trust. I suggest 5 criteria for evaluating the trustworthiness of others: 1) honesty 2) transparency 3) accountability 4) ethics and 5) alliance.”
(The Science of Trust, Dr. John Gottman, pgs. 335-336)
Do you trust your partner? Moreover, think about why it’s like that; what is the basis of your trust, or the lack of it?