According to Dr. Gottman’s Sound Relationship House Theory, two fundamental things make a romantic relationship stable and long-lasting: trust and commitment. While trust is something you feel, commitment is something you do. Today, we’ll take time to notice the immense importance of that feeling of trust in a relationship.
Dr. Gottman developed the “trust metrics” – a mathematical way to evaluate trust in a relationship.
“If my numbers are right, it’s smart to take the risk of trusting people, and it is also smart to know whom not to trust. I suggest 5 criteria for evaluating the trustworthiness of others: 1) honesty 2) transparency 3) accountability 4) ethics and 5) alliance.”
(The Science of Trust, Dr. John Gottman, pgs. 335-336)
Do you trust your partner? Moreover, think about why it’s like that; what is the basis of your trust, or the lack of it?