Are You Still Going Strong on Your New Year’s Resolutions?
So you made some New Year’s resolutions. This time you’ll save more money, or lose weight, or drink more water, or not stress so much or… whatever decision you made to improve your life. You are so determined to stick to them, because THIS time, you won’t quit; you’ll make it. This time is different! And, after a few weeks, you start slacking until, little by little, you give up and go back to your old habits. Does this scenario sound familiar?
If you gave up on your New Year’s resolutions don’t feel bad. Research found that 80% of people fail to stick to their New Year’s resolutions for more than about a month and a half. But why are we so bad at it? It’s because we’re all human, and we all struggle with doing what we should do vs. doing what we enjoy doing. Moreover, we easily fall into “False Hope Syndrome”. In other words, we often underestimate the likely speed, amount, ease and consequences of changing our behavior. Finally, overthinking is maybe #1 enemy to sticking to your resolutions.
So, instead of falling into the same trap again, it’s time to start the year off right. You need the real plan of action; not just the plain “decision” that’s nothing more than a wish. Call today 289-231-8479 to book your appointment and create your own life plan.
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References:
http://www.iflscience.com/brain/psychology-new-year-s-resolutions/
http://www.businessinsider.com/the-psychology-behind-why-we-cant-keep-new-years-resolutions-2018-1
4 Ways To Overcome Holiday Anxiety
Holidays are such a beautiful time of the year. For some. For others, the holiday season is a stressful time of the year loaded with anxiety. If you are among these “others”, here are 4 ways you can help yourself to overcome holiday anxiety.
1. What’s making you anxious?
Brainstorm ahead of time-specific situations or scenarios that bring about the most anxiety during the holidays. Finances? Pressures for perfect get-together’s? Underlying tensions with certain family members? Come up with 2 ideas on how you can alleviate some of the worries ahead of time – knowing ahead of time some solutions to your problems will ease some of your anxieties.
2. Perfect at pleasing?
It’s not always necessary to make the holidays ‘perfect.’ Try letting go and remembering why the holidays are important – not necessarily for the presents and the presentation, but more for the company of those important in our lives.
3. Ask for help!
This is the season for all to enjoy. It’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t mean you are weak; it means you are responsible for your well-being. In fact, did you know that research shows that the possibility of other people liking you more increases when you ask them for help? It’s true! By delegating some of the responsibilities others will feel like they’re a part of the process, and when there’s teamwork involved, the team members feel needed and important.
4. Be happy
As simple as it sounds – live for the present. Be happy with what you have, and what’s around you. Step back, look around you, and smile. Enjoy yourself! Sharing your smile will light up the room and give others a sense of positivity.
Happy Holidays!
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Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving, the time of year to give thanks for the important people and opportunities in our lives.
What do you give thanks for this year? Regardless of what, or who, remember to approach our lives every day of the year with a thankful attitude. It’s important to remember all the good things, people, relationships and experiences we have in our lives. It’s scientifically proven that gratitude has numerous benefits for ourselves, but also for people around us.
Practice Gratitude Every Day
Gratitude enhances your physical and psychological health. You will sleep better, have higher self-esteem and love yourself more, which leads to happier and healthier life. It also improves empathy and reduces aggression, which improves relationships and makes you more likable and approachable.
One of the good ways to remind yourself about the things you’re grateful this Thanksgiving, and keep remembering them during the year, is to write down 3 things you’re thankful for this year. After writing them down, reflect on why they’re important to you, and write them down beside the list. Post this somewhere visible in your living space so it’s a daily reminder.
Visualizations are also a powerful way to help us see the destination we want to arrive at.
And remember, Have Fun!
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References:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-gratitude
New Years Resolutions?
What are my New Year’s Resolutions?
As we’re rolling to the new year, I have one very important advice for you: Don’t do new years resolutions!
Goal setting is a daily, weekly, monthly habit, not just for the 1st of January.
Have a spectacular 2010!!
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The Work by Bryon Katie
Feeling stress during the Holiday season? Think about these questions from The Work by Bryon Katie.
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
- How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
- Who would you be without the thought?
- Then turn it around (the concept you are questioning), and don’t forget to find three genuine, specific examples of each turnaround.
Reference:
http://www.thework.com/thework.asp#2